My husband celebrated 28 weeks of “sobriety” this week!! There is hope ladies. This could be a very long post, detailing all of the stuff we’ve been thru but I will sum it up in one phrase GOD HEALS!!
My husband has battled a pornography and masturbation addiction for 30 years. We have been married for 14 years now and for the first time EVER, we are experiencing purity in our marriage!! We are starting a ministry within our church to battle pornography use and addiction, including supporting strained marriages, educating parents and just sharing our story of hope. I am going to step out of my comfort zone and post a video that I filmed the other day in preparation for a video series we are participating in.
I can’t tell you what will work for you, but I can tell you what worked for us. Prayer, accountability partner, internet filtering and tracking, reading numerous books, devotional time together and choosing to love. It sounds so simple when I type all of that, but I assure you there was nothing simple or easy on this journey.
Sorry this video is a little long…
The Life Of A Porn Addict's Wife 
Hi there (:
Congrats on such a big step forward! How are you guys doing now?
Glancing through your posts what comes to my mind is, your husband’s dissatisfaction isn’t an emptiness you can fill, it’s not a wife-shaped hole because if it were, getting married might have made a difference. But it’s a God-shaped hole, it’s a Father-shaped hole, so while the enemy tries to bring you down with ‘why am I not enough to satisfy my husband’… because what he needs first is a revelation of the love of father God, and while the accountability and the filtering and all those physical lines of defense are absolutely great, it’s never truly going to go away without encountering the love of Daddy and letting him heal. That’s my conclusion to-date after 10-odd years fighting my own addiction, but when I look at my big loving Daddy instead of my big ugly problem, and start allowing his love to consume me…. everything becomes so much lighter!
Anyway, congrats again and blessings on your marriage and ministry (:
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That is exactly what I finally had to learn…it was never about me. Only God could fill that hole he had. He has dealt with his issues with his father leaving at age 12, which was huge for his growth! He has continued to be porn and masturbation free since this post 🙂 Our marriage is completely changed. Our ministry is taking off like crazy!! Thanks for your comment…I often forget that I need to write new posts LOL So thanks for triggering me to start a new post later today!! Congratulations on your recovery as well and I will keep you in my prayers!
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